Yesterday, while chatting with a friend, we touched on an interesting idea: that age 45 is often seen as a particularly unhappy period. Happiness typically increases from birth, peaking in our late teens to early twenties. But then it begins to slide, hitting a low around 45. Fortunately, from age 46 onwards, things start looking up again, and by our 60s, we often find ourselves in a very content and joyous state once more.
This pattern is intricately linked to the well-known concept of the “midlife crisis.” It’s hard to grasp fully why this happens without stepping back and considering the bigger picture.
Interestingly, Western astrology provides an intriguing take on this. Around the age of 45, Pluto—an astrology symbol associated with death and the unexpected—forms a tense square angle (90 degrees) between a person’s natal chart and transit chart, signifying a clash of energies. This suggests that individuals at this age find themselves metaphorically caught between life and death, reflecting on mortality and its pressures.
In historical context, reaching 45 often meant entering the twilight years, naturally prompting thoughts of mortality. Even today, despite the average lifespan extending to about 80 years, individuals at 45 often face elderly parents’ health declines and peers’ passing. This life stage inevitably leads to deep reflections on the implications of mortality for themselves and their loved ones, pushing them to confront fears and decide how to tackle such existential issues.
On another note, Pluto is also associated with themes of the **soul** and **rebirth**. During a midlife crisis, many begin to evaluate whether their lives have been in harmony with their true selves, leading to profound inquiries such as, “If I faced death in two weeks, what would I choose to do now?”
Such introspective questioning often sparks a desire for change, prompting some to pursue vastly different paths from their past, perhaps leaving longstanding careers to embark on ventures that others may find perplexing or bewildering. Yet, these changes often resonate more with one’s true self at 45.
This soul-searching and the resulting decisions that align with one’s spiritual essence naturally usher in a phase of “rebirth,” allowing happiness to flourish, elevating life to unprecedented levels.
Thus, while midlife crises can be painful, they are crucial for personal growth. It’s important for each of us to deeply engage in this process, reflect, and make intentional choices about how we wish to live our remaining years. Regaining control of our life’s trajectory becomes paramount, regardless of our stage in life.
By embracing what lies ahead with an open heart, you’ll discover that the challenges faced will ultimately lead to a life of greater fulfillment. Moreover, you’ll reclaim complete control over your life and embrace the happiness that this journey brings.
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